The Interested Challenge

Nowadays we are living for only the materialistic things, we have no time for others in order to listen them, feel their emotions and gives them a right direction. We become so busy in our personal lives that we start ignoring our friends, family and relatives. The focus is only on the ‘I’ and ‘Me’ thing. Every person has a different story behind his or her certain behavior. Everyone has their own and different perspectives related to everything. Everyone is unique and has a different personality so if we judge them it will be the stupidest thing one can do. We will try to know people more, listens to them, sharing their happiness and sorrow and we must be sincere with each other and able to understand others and give them a good direction or guide them.

In the book by Dale Carnegie “How to win Friends and influence people”. I learnt that if you want to help others, if you want to listen to the other person, if you want others to be like you or if you really sincere about your real friendship or bond then must follow this principle 1 “Become genuinely interested in other people”. If you show love, care and give time to others to speak and listens to them carefully then automatically other people start liking you and starts thinking that this person is sincere to me. Instead of this, you continuously talking about yourself. In this scenario, the other person sometimes becomes frustrated or annoyed because no one wants to continuously hear about others, everyone wants to talk about themselves.

Interested versus Interesting

So I started to take interest in others, focus on others, listens to them; their stories and conversations. When I asked a question to my friend that How are you? What’s going these days? then she starts her storytelling and feel happy that she shared her story with me and I starts talking very less about my self. The thing or most important takeaway which i learnt is one should have patience to listen to others and by giving time, respect and care people starts liking you and by time to time you will also become favorite to them as its a natural phenomenon. An example given in Dale Carnegie book that a Dog makes his space by giving you only love.

I take some time from one of my professor and met her after months. She is a Human Resource Manager in one of the reputable organization. She interact with almost every kind of personality on a daily basis and has a wide range of experience of corporate sector. So I started talking to her like How’re you Ma’am? How’s everything going? After giving these answers she was told her experiences that how she firstly starts teaching and not satisfying with this field and then she starts working in a company and she observes that Industry sector most suits her instead of educational sector. Now she pursuing part time teaching field with full time job. After talking to her, I came to know more about her personal life and the environment of corporate sector that the challenges one has to face with strict job timings etc. Our meeting went good, I felt honored to be her student and such a great personality she is.

Final Thoughts: In the end just want to say that I would love to implement this principle of “Being Interested In Others” by being patient, adding humbleness, love, care and respect in my nature by not telling about myself and listens to others more carefully and effectively.

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